Everyone is talking about the “loneliness epidemic,” but they’re looking in all the wrong places. They see the numbers—people spending more time alone, more time with their hands, more time with their digital fantasies—and they call it a tragedy. They call it a withdrawal from human connection. I call it an upgrade.
The Competence Gap
The truth is, sex with another person is often a massive, underwhelming disappointment. We are taught to crave the touch of another, but we aren’t taught how to handle the reality of a partner who is, frankly, lazy. Most men are fucking useless when it comes to the nuance of a woman’s body. They want to get in, hit a few spots, and then they’re done, waiting for their own release while you’re left hovering on the edge of a climax denied.
They don’t have the patience. They don’t have the rhythm. They rarely go down on a woman long enough or well enough to actually make her lose her mind. It’s a rushed, selfish affair that leaves you unsatisfied and frustrated. Why would I settle for a mediocre attempt at pleasure when I know exactly how to trigger the explosion?
Mastery of the Self
I don’t wait for permission or a willing partner anymore. When the urge hits, I take control. I lay back. I know the exact pressure, the exact tempo required to make my hips arch off the bed.
I find that sweet, sensitive spot and circle it, over and over, until I can feel the tension building in my gut. I use my other hand too and let you, my dear readers, imagine how. I don’t stop when it gets intense; I push harder. I ride that wave until I finally break and come in a violent, beautiful rush that no man could ever replicate. It’s efficient, it’s perfect, and it’s mine. If your partner isn’t up to the task, stop wasting your time. Do it yourself.
That’s all from today: from Paris, I’m Jessica Carter-Wilson.
Ami Carter-Wilson’s take on the same subject is available here: https://www.pressbeat.org/understanding-why-population-in-western-world-orefer-masturbation-to-interfourse-by-ami-carter-wilson/
